Monday, June 20, 2011

The Stones that Spurred a Change of Heart

Who would've thought that Hubby and I could be so serious about our regular brisk evening walks (~4 kilometers every night) that we would even consider doing it in the midst of a light drizzle? A few months ago we would most likely have found a dozen excuses to just sit back and stay glued to the computer or TV screens if there was even a hint of rain in the air.

Times have changed. And so, I hope, have we.

It took a week and a half of excruciating abdominal pain, a date with the surgeon (for laparoscopic cholecystectomy, to remove my gallbladder), and the sight of all 20-odd gallstones (the largest of which was 1.5 cm) for us to take a really hard look at our lifestyle.

To say that I was scared would be an extreme understatement. Sure, the operation was a success, my gallbladder had been removed, and there didn't seem to be any long-lasting ill effects. The doctor even told me that I could eat everything, in moderation.

I remained worried though: if I continued with the way things were, would there be any symptoms and illnesses that could rear their unwelcome heads down the road and attack any other organs? Did I want to spend time in the hospital once again and have someone cut into me again?

I have 2 kids, both under the age of 8. I would like to be there to see their shenanigans while they are still young, to see them graduate from grade school, high school, and college. To be with them when they get married, and to hold my grandkids in my arms.

This proved to be a powerful objective, one that spurred me, and Hubby as well, to change our lifestyle. Gone are the numerous bottles of Coke Zero that used to be a ubiquitous accompaniment to our meals. In the past month and a half, we've consumed maybe a glass each -- and only during a birthday party, at that. The generous handfuls of M&Ms are now a thing of the past -- maybe 2 or 3 pieces in a week, and only if the little ones insist on offering us some. We've also managed to drastically cut down on chips & dips -- no more one-bag-a-night habits!

We now enjoy more fiber in our meals -- oatmeal, wheat bread are now regular parts of our diet. We never realized how many flavored variants Quaker Oats had! After a month of eating wheat bread, when I was given a white-bread sandwich it seemed to be so.. insubstantial.

Yogurt became a staple as well. Kudos to those who conceptualized Nestle's Fruit Selections! I've even learned to use plain yogurt as a healthier substitute for mayonnaise -- and no, it does not detract from the taste. In fact my favorite sandwich filling now is chicken sandwich with diced apple, onions, in a yogurt-mustard mix.

The frequent trips to fast-food outlets have been lessened as well. We've learned to pause and think first if what we to order from the tops of our heads are wise choices. We need not starve or deprive ourselves. It's all a matter of having the right portions and choosing the healthier options. Fish now appear as frequently on our table as meat. I now routinely peel of the chicken skin and give it to my older daughter, who loves it (no, she does not yet need to diet, so that's still ok with her). Fried foods have given way to less fatty dishes.

Fruits and veggies are much more appreciated now, and are a large part of our meals. Rice has taken a bit of a back-seat: from the 1-or-more cups per meal before, this has now been reduced to a third of a cup. Small, frequent meals do help, instead of bingeing during main mealtimes. The stomach is, after all, a muscle, which can be trained to handle smaller portions instead of huge ones.

The transition has not been as difficult as I would have imagined, prior to the operation. It's probably because I have now learned to appreciate food now just solely for the flavor come-on, but also for the nutritional benefits they can give me.

The evening walks we used to have were infrequent and aimless, when Hubby and I just strolled around leisurely. Nothing wrong with that, really. But we kicked it up a notch now, and have brisk walks - sometimes interspersed with short jogs - every night, even during a light drizzle. We've realized that our pace has grown much, much faster than before. Our breathing has improved, and we do not get tired as easily.

The benefits are also quite noticeable: 5 kg for Hubby, and 10 kg for me! We feel healthier, we can fit into our smaller-size clothes, we do not get tired as easily as before, plus, we save a lot from not having all those junk food around!

Now, let's just hope that our will-power stays constant, and that we can continue on this road.

Monday, June 6, 2011

A Tiring, But Not-So-Ordinary Weekend

It was a hectic day at the mall yesterday. I know, we should've known better than to brave the crowds in this last-Sunday-before-the-schoolyear-starts mad rush. But hey, we had a mission as well: buy two essential things for our schoolgirl - a schoolbag (preferably big and pink) and school shoes (black and sturdy).

I had initially planned to have these things in hand well before the June deadline. Good thing the little girl's classes don't start until the 14th. However due to my being sidelined for the better part of May (stomachaches, nausea, hospital stay, surgery, recovery), we ended up in this predicament.

I do not cease to be amazed at the number of books kids nowadays are expected to bring to school everyday. At grade 2, our little girl has a 7-hour schoolday! I had a laid-back 4-hour sched until grade 6, and just slightly more than that until I graduated from high school!

And so the quest for a spacious, wheeled bag was on. Oh, and by the way, it had to have Disney princesses on it, the more the better. Good thing we were able to see one at Robinson's in Festival Mall. It was big, like wheelie luggage lying down, with 6 wheels and lots of pockets, plus a snack bag and water bottle. And it was in pink, with 6 princesses -- Cinderella, Snow White, Aurora, Ariel, Jasmine, and Belle.

Whew, one down.

Then off we went to the shoes section -- just trying to navigate through the jampacked aisles was a feat in itself. Apart from the hordes of children trying out footwear, choosing the perfect style that had a perfect fit, some adults would also weave their way through the throng. Someone even had a baby stroller in tow, yes, a stroller. Imagine trying to push your way through the mass of people with that.

After negotiations on the style (nope, boots are not allowed in school) and material (leather or patent leather?), we settled down on a pair. Or so we thought. Then the little one said it was hard and it pinched her ankles.

The search began anew. Thankfully not far from the original pair was another pair that seemed to fit the bill, with the added bonus of having a thicker padding at the back of the ankle. Bingo!

We waded through the sea of people, and lined up at the counter to pay.

Of course the trip did not end there, as we made the semi-obligatory jaunt to the Powerbooks shop. Even with the advent of ebooks and with my trusty Kindle always on hand, I still did not emerge empty-handed, although I have to admit the number has dwindled from previous visits. The sales crew there recognize me and the little one now, haha!

As we drove back home, we were quite enchanted with the big double rainbow we saw along the STAR highway. You don't get to see that very often. And you don't often get to hear the amazement in a child's voice and the wonder in her eyes when she first sees that as well.

I am thankful that we found what we were looking for, that we were able to enjoy a day at the mall, that we were able to drive safely along the roads, that we saw the ephemeral beauty of a rainbow.

Magic can be found in unlikely places, in the most ordinary times.

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Meandering Thoughts on Mother's Day

This is the first day in so long that I have woken up to overcast skies. Can summer be over so soon? Yesterday we experienced a thunderstorm with rainshowers, probably due to tropical depression Bebeng. It just seems so early though... Ah well, PAGASA was predicting a "wet" summer for this year anyway.

I just cannot seem to reconcile "wet" with "summer". For me, summer equates to blue skies, the kind of blue that hurts one's eyes with its brightness, and occasionally framed by fluffy white clouds with nary a gray tinge. Summer equals dry, blistering heat -- the type of heat that makes one think of an oven, but at the same time conjures up images of azure waves and damp sand that sticks onto one's feet.

Perhaps the remainder of this summer will just be wet, damp, and cloudy.

We'll find ways to enjoy and be thankful:
  • That the worst of the heat will be chased off by the rains, so we at least avoid heat-stroke
  • That the farmers and their fields can have the welcome moisture and water for the growing plants
  • That the weather just helps us feel cozier when just sitting by at home
  • That children can play in the rain for longer periods while it is still their summer vacation.
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Today is Mother's Day. I woke up in a bit of a snit because I really wanted to go out and have a nice lunch somewhere, like Tagaytay. But last night the conversations didn't seem to be going that way (to my mind, at least). And so I left the bed with a bit of a heavy heart.

I then asked Hubby what time he had slept, since I knew last night was a big night in their online gaming community (battles, spies, attacks -- it's a totally different, parallel world for them!). He cited a fairly reasonable time (for a weekend, that is). At least that didn't add fuel to my fire.

Then he asked me to go to the living room. And I saw a bouquet of flowers for me. Hubby and our older daughter had gotten out of the house at 5:30 in the morning to go and pick out flowers. I'm now sure if they were quite stealthy about it or if I was just completely zonked out, but I did not hear anything, not even when they came back. And I am normally a light sleeper.

My huffy mood evaporated, just like that. It reminded me that the signs of appreciation that I wanted can and will manifest themselves in ways that I will not always expect, but will always make me thankful.
  • For a little girl who would willingly give up her early morning sleep just to pick and choose the colors and flowers for her mother
  • For a husband who plays online games instead of having any vices, and who was ready to trade those gaming moments to go out and get me flowers
  • For this day that is dedicated to Mothers.
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Today is Mother's Day. I am thankful for having two daughters of my own, who give me great joy and at times, great frustration as well, but I'll take the whole package.

This is also the first Mother's Day that I will celebrate without my own mother.

Almost a year has gone by now, and for the most part the pain of her passing on has subsided to a dull ache. For the past week though I have been thinking of her a lot more than usual, remembering conversations we'd had, events we participated in, food that she cooked.

These memories are all I have now, all that I can share with my own daughters on what kind of person their grandmother was.

It's been almost a year now, and yet I still sometimes ask myself: Has it been a year already?

I still miss you Mama.